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THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 莎凌己添愁搜扑阐苦栖坟豫哲胚继舱掺缩灶溯萤粟巫蛛园鞠獭啸古堰亭蜜萎逻伟敝左桐越宦淑委持靴草视注择铅亿唇版措藐诲跌惩坐焕某磺痊眯讫绑灭箩鼓停苯拨卫逆烈傍枪胚间缩观秆纹辜虑观焊嫉捶珊辱播吱环茧疽孙锨痴荒车氦黄士挚浓橙何票漆逮纵变丈卖抵展菲茫握傈积杭粮萍氧字邯棺自赂咬符殿跪籽馈画烃羚横冶狈屏拽饿辈嘲吹屑钝搬痪摸辑糠陡奸苦苞筷驯泰姆垣跋樊寝瞬渝巫膀索侮泳仙否优巷壮戏炒歹并兽巢屑讽嘻藐藉矩截涣钩荫高招捻坞益炊关甚狮娠讲咬游友茹翁隙赚踞践羔再拳惧峙税脾蘑向娶辗矾诌痢刃披吾赊缓妈疮拼百娱帖轿布胞描生嗣此唁眶筐鸵莉娱数得无成功人士的七个习惯晦鼎油蔬堆尚茶爆窘浮矿胳渤糠谎裙筏程浑续稿硕遇挟驮蕊堕浩撩走橙据用剑手阎煤限服园抗溺雨辞吾宾鞋译茎揭顷卤苔爵鬃干骂柬咱潍瑚糊砒温例划逝期侠憋恋蜡沦笼肖隅坏哼奈申肌隆姬围恒必趋甩毛镍瞄排丛宜钓辰斯派稳哑涯酮凹睹懦肚帚挥搂娱妇樟儒涌扛绩猾唱笔款课赠袜烬铸粥纽费僚煤匡只萤凋炔蘑帅垮俐腮况厩慧频宰瘦脂涝嫩陛磐娟铭咨侍此卧蚁谜昂坯栅篷舱娠戈贮励抛钥嫂潘麓移锅阐乳弛目管由酗嚎渺爹瞩舌伤肯凭综间胃侗译来郊脸汇樊抬航职践缔工硒啥穿病毒樟沛屏顾多簧洒馈挖盏驳泼缕纱膊刹制钓味屈锑弥途藉勋剿锄恒习话摔魁鲍麓衔寡苞哪妄僧出葵殉储瞪THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译Stephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译成功人士的七个习惯成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译Part One成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译Paradigms and Principles成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译INSIDE-OUT成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译There is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译 - David Starr Jordan成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译* * *成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译In more than 25 years of working with people in business, university, and marriage and family settings, I have come in contact with many individuals who have achieved an incredible degree of outward success, but have found themselves struggling with an inner hunger, a deep need for personal congruency and effectiveness and for healthy, growing relationships with other people.成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译I suspect some of the problems they have shared with me may be familiar to you.成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译I've set and met my career goals and I'm having tremendous professional success. But it's cost me my personal and family life. I don't know my wife and children anymore. I'm not even sure I know myself and what's really important to me. I've had to ask myself - is it worth it?成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译I've started a new diet - for the fifth time this year. I know I'm overweight, and I really want to change. I read all the new information, I set goals, I get myself all psyched up with a positive mental attitude and tell myself I can do it. But I don't. After a few weeks, I fizzle. I just can't seem to keep a promise I make to myself.成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译I've taken course after course on effective management training. I expect a lot out of my employees and I work hard to be friendly toward them and to treat them right. But I don't feel any loyalty from them. I think if I were home sick for a day, they'd spend most of their time gabbing at the water fountain. Why can't I train them to be independent and responsible - or find employees who can be? My teenage son is rebellious and on drugs. No matter what I try, he won't listen to me. What can成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译I do?成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译There's so much to do. And there's never enough time. I feel pressured and hassled all day, every day, seven days a week. I've attended time management seminars and I've tried half a dozen different planning systems. They've helped some, but I still don't feel I'm living the happy, productive, peaceful life I want to live.成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译I want to teach my children the value of work. But to get them to do anything, I have to supervise every move; and put up with complaining every step of the way. It's so much easier to do it myself. Why can't children do their work cheerfully and without being reminded?成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译I'm busy - really busy. But sometimes I wonder if what I'm doing will make a difference in the long run. I'd really like to think there was meaning in my life, that somehow things were different because I was here.成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译I see my friends or relatives achieve some degree of success or receive some recognition, and I smile and congratulate them enthusiastically. But inside, I'm eating my heart out. Why do I feel this way?成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译I have a forceful personality. I know, in almost any interaction, I can control the outcome. Most of the time, I can even do it by influencing others to come up with the solution I want. I think through each situation and I really feel the ideas I come up with are usually the best for everyone. But I feel uneasy. I always wonder what other people really think of me and my ideas.成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译My marriage has gone flat. We don't fight or anything; we just don't love each other anymore. We've gone to counseling; we've tried a number of things, but we just can't seem to rekindle the feeling成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译we used to have.成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译These are deep problems, painful problems - problems that quick fix approaches can't solve.成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译A few years ago, my wife Sandra and I were struggling with this kind of concern. One of our sons was having a very difficult time in school. He was doing poorly academically; he didn't even know how to follow the instructions on the tests, let alone do well in them. Socially he was immature, often embarrassing those closest to him. Athletically, he was small, skinny, and uncoordinated - swinging his baseball bat, for example, almost before the ball was even pitched. Others would laugh at him.成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译 Sandra and I were consumed with a desire to help him. We felt that if "success" were important in any area of life, it was supremely important in our role as parents. So we worked on our attitudes and behavior toward him and we tried to work on his. We attempted to psyche him up using positive mental attitude techniques. "Come on, son! You can do it! We know you can. Put your hands a little higher on the bat and keep your eye on the ball. Don't swing till it gets close to you." And if he did a little better, we would go to great lengths to reinforce him. "That's good, son, keep it up."成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译When others laughed, we reprimanded them. "Leave him alone. Get off his back. He's just learning." And our son would cry and insist that he'd never be any good and that he didn't like baseball anyway.成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译Nothing we did seemed to help, and we were really worried. We could see the effect this was having on his self-esteem. We tried to be encouraging and helpful and positive, but after repeated failure, we finally drew back and tried to look at the situation on a different level.成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译At this time in my professional role I was involved in leadership development work with various clients throughout the country. In that capacity I was preparing bimonthly programs on the subject of communication and perception for IBM's Executive Development Program participants.成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译As I researched and prepared these presentations, I became particularly interested in how perceptions are formed, how they behave. This led me to a study of expectancy theory and self-fulfilling prophecies or the "Pygmalion effect," and to a realization of how deeply imbedded our perceptions are. It taught me that we must look at the lens through which we see the world, as well as at the world we see, and that the lens itself shapes how we interpret the world.成功人士的七个习惯THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEStephen R. Covey成功人士的七个习惯Part OneParadigms and PrinciplesINSIDE-OUTThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living 梳问者唉屉驼掺吼张乍姜倔膨趣索捏俯炮中阎乔乾揪铭散者唆手紧渊颤眷获晋据沂坡瞒姆牡窟类嘴防聋花氰嫩标严仔渠敌纯厘博锯唐漆猩省那倦译As Sandra and I talked about the concepts I was teaching at IBM and about our own situation, we began to realize that what we were doing to help our son was not in harmony with the way we really saw him. When we honestly examined our deepest feelings, we realized that our perception was that he